Happy Book Lover’s Day

I am a day late to wish but better late than never. I have always loved book since I was a child. I do have a faint memory of my first books of Kindergarten. Books are my first love. They are my friends. They never make me feel lonely. I am bit possessive about the books I own. It is difficult for me to lend my books and if I do, they are the most trusted ones.

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counsellors, and the most patient of teachers.” — Charles William Eliot

The smell of new fresh book is mesmerizing. The old ones too carry a charm in them. They show the maturity and how they are sturdy even after many years. The tender, frail paper still holds ocean of knowledge in it.

Books behold fiction, literature, fantasy and many genres within them.

“Sometimes, you read a book and it fills you with this weird evangelical zeal, and you become convinced that the shattered world will never be put back together unless and until all living humans read the book.” ― John Green, The Fault in Our Stars.

Read the article on Huffington Post – 19 Quotes That Will Make You Fall in Love With Books All Over Again

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Till my tenth grade I had my head in academic books. My love for books intensified when I joined a library and that place made me feel like living in heaven. My hands set on Enid Blyton books but the day I read ‘Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets’ it left me in awe. I mean how can someone write such book? The mystical creatures, the magic, the characters, HOW? I love and respect J.K.Rowling for her magical creation. There would be handful of people on this planet who did not like reading Harry Potter books. I am a complete Potterhead for the matter of fact.

It’s been fifteen years now since my reading marathon (which had halted for 3 years) and still going on. Compared to the avid readers I read a lot less books in a year but I strive to complete Goodreads reading challenge.

Hardy boys, Secret Seven, Famous Five are my all time favorite books. Speaking about authors: Jojo Moyes stole my heart with her ‘Me Before You’. Sophie Kinsella has the skill to uplift the sad mood by her chicklit books. Twenties Girl being the first book I read and shall forever remain in my top 5 books.

How can I not mention ‘P.S.I Love You’ by Cecelia Ahern? I read this book thrice and it never failed to warm my heart and moist my eyes. ‘P.S. I Like You’ by Kasie West is a sweet read. ‘Marshmallows for breakfast’ and ‘My Best Friend’s Girl’ by Dorothy Koomson was such a surprisingly pleasant read. ‘Bell Jar’ by Sylvia Plath was painful but so true.

By now you are right that I am a big fan of contemporary and chicklit books but I do plan to read few classics. I never choose to read a book by ratings given by other readers because sometimes it happens that I actually liked the book which isn’t so raved about.

Few of the Indian authors I love reading are: Twinkle Khanna (OMG! She surprised the whole world with her satirical books), Amish Tripathi, Ravinder Singh.

I still have hundreds of books on my TBR list. I want to read books by Sarah Dessen, John Green, Jennifer Weiner, Leo Tolstoy, Charles Dickens, Marian Keyes, Lindsey Kelk, Colleen Hoover, Cassandra Clarke, Sarah J Mass.

I can go on and on and this post can be never ending. Final word: My biggest aim is to read Game of Thrones. The TV series is raved all over the world but I sort of did not like it. Please don’t send me hate or abuses, we all have our own likes and dislikes 😀

Till next time, Happy Book Lover’s Day once again. Keep reading and bring magic in your life!

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Words Have Power

Words have power. They can make you or break you. I am sure you must be talking inside the head. I DO IT! ALL THE TIME!

Have you ever noticed or realised what you think, you become? Thoughts maketh man! I can’t stress enough how important it is to think rational, to think positive.

No one loves you? No big deal! You can love yourself, can’t you? I was introduced to ‘Self-love’ when I had undergone training for REBT. It was magical knowing about the importance of self-love and self-care.

One of the outcomes of self-love is reciting positive affirmation each day of my life. I have begun to smile when I look at myself in the mirror. And God! It feels so good.

Apart from 100 things that make me happy, in my previous post I wrote about ‘journaling’ which calms me. It is helping me to uncover my own subconscious mind. I do not write every day but the days I write I realize when I am drifting into darkness or negativity.

I came across ‘journaling’ or to be precise ‘morning pages’ in one of the videos on YouTube. The concept of morning pages came from the movement called ‘The Artist’s Way’ by author Julia Cameron. I quote here from the site:

Morning Pages are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. *There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages*– they are not high art. They are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. Morning Pages provoke, clarify, comfort, cajole, prioritize and synchronize the day at hand. Do not over-think Morning Pages: just put three pages of anything on the page…and then do three more pages tomorrow.

But I write mostly at night time because I’m a night owl 😛

Coming back to positive affirmation here I am sharing my favourite ones. They are simply awesome, right? Do share yours.

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My most favorite one which resonates my infertility 😀

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5 Favorite TV shows, Movies and My Infertility

This post is not to mock anyone. It is just my effort to be happy even with the big ‘I’ word – Infertility. Let’s get started, shall I?

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The Vampire Diaries:

Don’t you smirk! I LOVE IT. I am addicted to it and am hooked to the last vampire diaries season 8. I love the evil yet adorable Damon (not a surprise, ain’t it?) I am jealous of Elena. Anyways I am not here to write about my favorite characters.

I wish I could switch my humanity as vampires can which makes them evil and hungry for blood. I will turn my emotions off and attack all those who treat infertile couples especially women as… (I can’t write the word which is in my head, hope you guessed it)

Yes I want to be a vampire with my humanity shut off, after all vampires too can’t reproduce and I there would have been no need of all the infertility treatment. I wonder whose blood I would drink to be one. (Secretly wishing its Damon Salvatore, LOL. He never stopped loving Elena)

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Give me the powers of Siren like the evil sisters – Sybil and Seline I would drill in the heads of people asking, “When are you going to have a baby, are you planning, what’s wrong?” and make them feel the emotional pain I am going through.

I am kind of being a little bit evil here, but hey try standing in my shoes of infertile; you won’t be able to walk even half a mile!

Lastly I want a friend, a confidante like Bonnie Bennett whom I can share anything and everything about my ‘not able to have a baby in my belly’ situation because she is all ears. And I cannot restrain myself asking her ‘what are my causes of infertility and when will I have one?’ with her psychic abilities; couldn’t hurt to request 😉

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

I had watched the season where Monica and Chandler come to know about their infertility before my marriage. Not even my wildest dreams I could have imagined the same for me. I remember the episode wherein Monica wants to try after positive ovulation test but Chandler doesn’t want because they were fighting. That’s so resonate with reality.

It takes great deal of strength for a couple to go through this journey together. I guess there are very few couples like Monica and Chandler who can say ‘I am sorry…I am sorry too.”

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Chasing Life

Please tell me I am not the only one who adored this Chasing Life TV series. How can they just stop it? If the makers are reading this, I plead to you, continue the show. I loved April, her bestie Beth and the wacky Leo. I may not die of infertility considering the fight of April with cancer, but there is lot to learn from her. I can empathize with her feelings. Her quote, “There’s no such thing as 5 minutes for me anymore, every minute counts.”

Let me reframe it, “There’s no such thing as take a break from trying for me anymore, every day after ovulation counts.”

I certainly know how I am gonna come out of this long disturbing journey:

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The Last Word

Harriet Lauler took risks and lived a life she wanted with no regrets. And this was the reason no one spoke something “good” for her obituary. I do not want to spoil the movie plot here rather I want to share something insightful.

Harriet Lauler: Taking risks is what life is all about. I took a risk. I went to college and in my day oh! no man wanted to marry a woman who was educated, no man wanted to marry a woman who worked, no man wanted to marry a woman that he worked for. And my favorite was no one wanted to marry a woman in business but those were the risks I was willing to take.

Kid: Why? Why did you take those risks?

Harriet Lauler: Because there was no way I was not going to live up to my potential. Now you have to ask yourself this question:

“Are you willing to take a risk to do something stupid?”  or “Are you willing to take a risk to do something great?”

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How does this dialogue connect to my infertility? I took a risk of stopping hormonal pills. I took the risk of not opting for IVF. But am I ready to take a risk of taking the decision or at least thinking that it is ‘OK’ if I never have a baby of my own?

I was stung by strange who fired a question at me, “What will happen if you do not conceive? If not then it doesn’t make any difference, you have the right to be happy in life despite it.”

Well at this stage of my life I am not willing to take the risk of saying, ‘It’s OK’.

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I need not re-write it again. Read the entire post on the movie here.

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I Hate Her

‘I hate her’ (my mom), this is what I had written on a red and blue line paper when I was just seven or eight years old. I exactly remember that time phase. It was an afternoon and out of nowhere, I don’t know what got into me, I wrote those horrendous sentences and had crumpled the paper in my fist in my anger. That memory is etched on my mind which can never be erased. Why had I written it? The entire childhood I had the (false) belief that my mom loved my sibling more than me.

Let me tell you, it wasn’t sibling rivalry; jealously, yes might be. I took care of my sibling whenever we were alone or while going to school. I had run to a store to buy a chart with the only one rupee I had with me for my siblings’ class assignment who had forgotten to tell mom to buy the earlier day. So, it wasn’t sibling rivalry or jealousy either.

Now, in my adulthood after attending psychology lectures during medical college I came to know what exactly I was going through during childhood. It was childhood depression. After 24 years of living I understood it was depression and not sibling rivalry when I underwent training for personal counseling. I was depressed in that tender age and no one, NO ONE understood that.

It wasn’t a full-fledged depression where I hurt myself or others but I remained aloof. I never used to convey my emotions to my parents or anyone else. I used to spend time with ‘myself’. Solitude was my companion. I couldn’t cry in front of others but I remember crying my heart out in bathroom. It was countless times. Yes, indeed.

I lost my years of childhood due to it. I never had the ‘mother-daughter’ relation. I couldn’t put forward my opinions, my dreams. Everything went in vain. Just because I couldn’t gather courage to speak my heart out. Time passed by and somehow I did come out of it. My relation with my mother has outgrown that feeling.

Still I have the darkness inside me which overpowers me occasionally. Have you cried out wholeheartedly IN FRONT OF OTHERS or someone? If yes, you are blessed to do it. I have never or I cannot cry wholeheartedly in front of anyone not even H. In fact it is hardest to cry out in front of him.

I never intended to write this post on depression, post World Health Day which emphasized on ‘Depression’ this year. Rather this post is an unexpected flare after watching the movie Dear Zindagi, third time. Haven’t watched it then you must even if you do not understand the language watch it with subtitles. I am sure you will take something in return with it every time.

What I haven’t done in my life which the movie communicates?

Dialogue: Tum agar khulke ro nahi sakogi … toh khulkar has kaise sakogi

If you are not able to cry openly … then how will you laugh openly

As mentioned earlier, I cannot.

Dialogue: Zindagi ek jigsaw puzzle ki tarah hai … mere jaise log uss puzzle ke khoye hue tukde, sirf dhoondne aur jodne mein madad kar sakte hai … par only you can complete the puzzle.

Life is like a jigsaw puzzle … people like me can only help you in finding and connecting the puzzle pieces … but only you can complete the puzzle

I have started to picking up the puzzle but not completed yet.

Dialogue: Safe feel karne ke liye pehle saare dar mitana zaroori hai

To feel safe you first need to remove all your fears

I HAVE SO MANY FEARS. Fear of not being pregnant, fear of losing relation, fear of failing.

Dialogue: Agar hum apni zindagi ka steering wheel apne haath mein nahi lenge na … toh koi doosra driver seat par baith jayega

If we don’t take the steering wheel of our life in our own hands … then someone else will sit on the driver’s seat

The steering wheel is in my hands but I haven’t started the vehicle yet to direct it.

My most favorite one:

Dialogue: Jab hum apne aap ko achchi tarah samajh lete hai … toh doosre kya samajhte hai, it doesn’t matter … not at all

When we understand ourselves well enough … then it doesn’t matter what others think about us … not at all

THIS IS WHAT I HAVE TO ABSORB!

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My 5 favorite inspirational quotes

5 Quotes that inspire me

I am a big crazy fan of quotes. I have pasted them on my refrigerator, hang them in my living room, they are on my mobile wallpaper. So that every time I come across them, they rejuvenate me.

Each day of my life I work hard to think ‘rationally’ which is indeed difficult but not impossible. Life beats me down, lifts me up and sometimes crashes me hard. These quotes help me in those difficult times.

Inspirational Quotes can be compared to meditation. They help you in keeping calm, they have the power to alter your thoughts.

Quotes make you feel happy, they encourage you, they uplift the mood.

Read at least 2-3 inspirational quotes every day. Do not consider as a task so as to strike off from ‘to-do list’.

Take a break from the “routine” and read quotes for making you feel happy. Here are my 5 favorite quotes by the legends like Elvis Presley, Martin Luther King Jr., Dr.Seuss, Henry David Thoreau.

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Do share some of yours 🙂